How to Create 3 Strand Flat Twists for Super Curl Definition

4A/B/C Natural Hair Defined | 3 Strand Twists | Easy Technique | Ft. Model @ Razorempress

For some, your natural hair texture can be difficult to define. All hair textures can be styled in a way that is beautiful, polished and stunning.However, knowing how to achieve the look for your hair type is key. The popularity of 3 Strand Twists is ever growing as are the many ways of creating them. This video will show you step-by-step how to create a "Faux" Wash-N-Go look from an easy to create 3 strand twist out. These can be created on old stretched hair or on freshly cleansed tresses. For maximum definition, its best to apply additional moisturizer and or setting lotion so that you will maintain your definition for days to come. Check out model Razormepress here: https://www.youtube.com/user/Razorempress #naturalhair #3strandtwist #ropetwists

PROPER CARE FOR COLOR TREATED NATURAL HAIR

COLORING your natural hair can be just the change you need to give it new life. However, it can also cause tremendous damage to a healthy head of natural hair that may have taken years to achieve. 

Taking precautions before and after applying permanent color to your hair is essential. If your hair is already damaged, it is best that you wait until your hair is stronger and healthier before doing so. Instead, you may want to opt for milder less damaging color such as henna or temporary color rinses. 

To minimize damage before and after coloring protective style & be sure to eliminate the use of direct heat implements, such as blow dryers, curling and flat irons. instead set the hair and allow to air dry or under a warm hooded dryer.

Once you have determined that your hair is healthy enough for permanent color, it is best to consult with a professional hair colorist who's work you can verify and who has experience working with highly textured natural hair. 

Here are a few additional steps you will want to take to keep your permanently colored natural tresses strong, healthy and flourishing…

Immediately after applying permanent hair color, it is best to shampoo and condition the hair with a color friendly shampoo and conditioner, preferably one that is made by the same color manufacturer.  it should help to seal in the color and prevent fading post color application. 

Permanently colored natural hair will be more porous and thinner because some of the hair’s keratin will be removed during the color process. therefore, It is a good idea to use products such as clay masks or ACV to help close and smooth out the cuticle and to rinse & remove any impurities left on the hair shaft after coloring.

Permanently colored natural hair will also tend to be very dry and brittle. using a good leave-in deep conditioner and moisturizer often will be a must. the hair will also need oils that will penetrate and lubricate the hair shaft. this will help to eliminate the excessive dryness that will be a constant battle for natural hair that is already difficult to keep moisturized.

Adding oils to your favorite moisturizer will help colored hair to maintain softness and shine. 

To intensify penetration of conditioner and oils, apply a plastic cap and heat under a hooded dryer or steamer for 30-60 minutes. The heat will allow the cuticle to open further. after, remove cap, let hair cool so the cuticle will close & oils will lock into the hair shaft. 
then style.

Permanently coloring the hair will inevitable cause thinning and breakage of the hair shaft, for this reason it is important to use a leave-in, anti-breakage conditioner or serum while combing wet. your conditioner should have enough protein to fill in the missing keratin but not so much as to cause hardening of the hair shaft.

Use of an anti-breakage conditioner after each cleansing and while setting the hair will help to significantly minimize hair breakage.

After setting and styling your colored natural hair, it will be necessary to seal and add sheen to your hair as it will absorb oils and  moisturizing products quickly since it is more porous. to maintain the best oil & moisture balance use heavier oils and butters lightly but on a daily basis. 

Finally, to keep hair thick and full, regularly trimming the ends is a must. because colored processed hair is more porous the ends will split easier. 

To prevent split ends from traveling up the hair shaft and causing breakage and thinning, micro or mini-trim the hair monthly. trimming no more than 1/16-1/8th of an inch,. enough to keep split ends at bay but to also retain healthy hair growth.

PRODUCTS USED: Natural Oasis 

Step1 Cleanser- Fruit Herb & Flower ACV 

Step 2-Moisturizer/Leave-in Conditioner Honey Creme Liquid Balm

Step 3- Setting Lotion-Fruit, Herb 7 Flower Setting Lotion (Tea bags) 

Step 4-Add Shine & Seal/Define: Herbal Hair & Skin/Scalp Conditioner Or Honey Gloss & Shine Liquid Balm

How to Stretch, Curl & Define 4B/C Natural Hair Without Heat!

There are times when those of us with naturally tightly coiled or textured hair may want to stretch, elongate and define it. There are many ways to achieve this. Braiding is a tried and generally healthy way to elongate the hair while still maintaining texture. There are new devices being created that also help with stretching or elongating naturally textured hair, but may not curl the hair at the same time.

Why forgo direct heat on naturally dry, kinky hair types?: It is because in order to get the hair completely straight you must disrupt the protein bonds of the hair. The extreme heat needed to straighten the hair will cause these protein bonds to be slightly broken down each time the hair is heat treated. The more often the hair is straightened the more the bonds will be broken down, causing the hair to lose it's natural curl pattern more and more each time the hair is pressed. 

Depending on the hair's texture it may require more aggressive straightening to get the hair as straight and silky as one may desire. The straighter the hair texture is naturally the less heat will be required. This is why some can heat style their hair with minimal heat damage and others experience more damage. The type of process used to straighten the hair will also affect how damaging it will be to the hair. To minimize damage, especially if the hair texture is tighter, more corse and harder to straighten, opt for more indirect ways of straightening, stretching or loosening the hair, such as roller setting. Roller setting will allow you to set the hair in a way that it will straighten naturally as much as it can based on it's natural curl pattern without forcing it to straighten beyond it's natural ability and what is healthy for your particular curl patten and or texture. Heat damage occurs when the hair is forced to straighten far beyond it's natural curl patten using extreme heat and tension. 

Many who have been trying to grow their natural hair have found that the hair only grows to a certain point but never to their desired length. If you are pressing your hair or using heat implements on a regular basis this could be the problem. Also trimming the ends regularly, especially if you are heat treating your hair, is a must. This is because heat treating the hair will cause the ends to split. If these ends are not trimmed they will travel up the hair shaft and cause uneven hair breakage and thinning.

If you have made the decision to "grow" natural, learn to accept your hair's natural texture without comparing it to that of others. Learn the options you have for changing and increasing your style options without damaging it with the excessive use of heat..

This website has many style options and videos that will show Step-By-Step how to stretch the hair without damaging it and causing irreparable damage to your precious natural hair texture.

How to Achieve this look: When we opt for a curly style we most often want to maintain as much noticeable length as possible. This video will show how to define and elongate the hair while also creating amazing texture, curls and waves all without applying extreme tension, heat or manipulation to achieve the look. 

What you will need to achieve this look:

PRODUCTS: Natural Oasis

Step1 Cleanser- Fruit Herb & Flower ACV 

Step 2-Moisturizer/Leave-in Conditioner Honey Creme Liquid Balm

Step 3- Setting Lotion-Fruit, Herb 7 Flower Setting Lotion (Tea bags) 

Step 4-Add Shine & Seal/Define: Herbal Hair & Skin/Scalp Conditioner Or Honey Gloss & Shine Liquid Balm

2) TOOLS: Large tooth comb, Rat-Tail Comb, Magnetic Rollers with Clamps, Large Perm Rods.

New Video "Massive Super Defined Spiral Curls"- Go Ahead...Show off All That Beautiful, Natural Hair!

Learn to create long-lasting, super defined curls, using flex-rods, perm rods or straws. 

By now, everyone knows that flex-rods are one of my favorite ways to style natural hair.  I've been wanting to showcase a super tight, full and defined massive curly style that can be worn for those summer days or evenings when you want to let loose all the natural hair growth you've spent months or even years to grow. This style really allows you to show off all that hard work and sacrifice, utilizing protective styles to achieve massive hair growth. Using a similarly used technique with flex-rods, this styling option will allow you to create super defined, long-lasting curls that can go from a big, massive curly fro or spiral ringlets to a super full pineapple or curly puff when the curls begin to fall. This technique should give you curls that will last 1-2 weeks, perhaps longer, depending on how favorable the weather is where you live. So godhead, treat yourself to this awesome mane of magnificent curls. And if you haven't grown it yourself yet,...improvise by creating this look with a protective sew-in or crotchet weave. For more information of products used click here: http://www.naturaloasisproducts.com/howtouseproducts

Wishing you all the best with your natural hair goals,

Jamia

Step-by-Step Guide to Natural Hair Care: Porosity

Caring for natural hair can be a challenge for many. From styling to which products to use, achieving the perfect look can prove to be a daunting task, There is a never ending supply of "Natural Hair Care Products" available to the natural hair care consumer, still determining which products will work well for your hair will be an exercise in trial and error. Caring for your natural hair takes a great deal of patience and time initially. Once you've found a style or styles that are simple to create and long-lasting , caring for your natural hair will prove to be less time consuming and frustrating. Below will be a step-by-step approach to caring for most natural hair porosity types. 

Determining Your Hair's Needs

If possible, try to determine your hairs needs. Is it in need of porosity control, moisture, shine or even a good trim to get it on the road to being the beautiful crown and glory you've always dreamed of. There are several steps you may need to take to lay the foundation for achieving a more beautiful, healthier head of natural hair. 

STEP 1: Trimming Your Ends

For many this step may seem unnecessary, however trimming your ends may be the first step you will need to take to help make your hair more manageable. Of course, if you have recently had a big chop, especially if it was done professionally you can likely skip this step. However, beside to have your ends trimmed every 4-8 weeks thereafter. Once you have gotten an initial hair cut or complete trim, you will only need to have a micro or mini trim regularly. See video below for hair cutting tips.

STEP 2: Porosity Control

Many are not aware of the importance of porosity control or what it means. Porosity is the ability of the hair to take in water and other moisture or even oils, it also refers to how open the hair's cuticle layer is. Based on the definition having porous hair may seem like a good thing. While having porous hair does allow it to accept water, conditioners and oils easily, if the hair is extremely porous, it usually means the hair has been damaged in some way. Most hair is either low, medium or highly porous. 

LOW POROSITY:

Low porosity hair

Low porosity hair is usually hair that is in it's virgin state. It's cuticle layer is completely close, which prevents water or moisture from entering into it easily. This can be good because it means the hair is in it's complete state, and still contains all of it's natural keratin or proteins, which means it will be stronger than porous hair. 

Caring for low porosity hair can be challenging especially if the hair is naturally dry, as this means it will be harder for the hair to accept moisture within the cuticle layer of the hair. When hair has low porosity, to add moisture may require warming or steaming hair indirectly by using conditioner or oil on wet warm hair. Warming the hair will allow the cuticle to open and better accept moisturizing conditioners or lubricating oils. Warm the hair using a hair steamer, plastic cap on the hair with a towel wrapped around the head or under a warm hood dryer over night or for 30 minutes respectively. Products containing natural humectants such as honey and or natural butters are excellent for moisturizing low porosity hair. Olive and Jojoba oil are also good oils for moisturizing and lubricating low porosity hair. These oils will easily penetrate as well as lubricate the hair helping to make low porosity hair softer. Hot oil treatments are also good for this hair type since it will allow the oil to be deposited directly onto the hair shaft for hair that is especially resistant to accepting moisture.

                                                                                                                          MEDIUM POROSITY:

Medium porosity is generally good because the cuticle layer is slightly open and easily accepts and retains water or moisture, making it easy to condition and soften. Medium porosity hair usually has little damage as the natural protein or keratin has been minimally affected. Medium porosity hair can therefore be easily moisturized, conditioned and lubricated by using the same techniques as for low porosity hair. 

However, less product will be required since the hair easily accepts moisture. Using a mild hair cleanser that is pH balanced and or no more than a pH 4.0- 7.0 acidic is ideal. Warming the hair will conditioning is a good idea just to insure maximum conditioning especially if the hair tends to be very dry or is highly textured. Simple oils and conditioners can easily absorb into medium porous hair allowing it to be easily maintained and healthy.

HIGH POROSITY:

While some may be born with high porosity hair, often the hair becomes highly porous due to permanent hair colors, especially hair lighteners or bleach. The constant use of direct heat styling implements such as blow dryers and flat irons and the use of chemical relaxers or perms can also remove some of the hair's cuticle layer, creating holes in the hair shaft causing it to become overly porous and damaged. Highly porous hair accepts water and moisture easily but releases it easily also making it hard to keep the hair moisturized and conditioned. Keeping highly porous hair moisturized can be achieved in a similar manner as low porosity hair. However, the hair may need to be deep condition longer and rinsed from the hair using cool water. Also using a no-rinse deep conditioner is highly effective. The idea is to force the cuticle layer of the hair to close while simultaneously locking in oil, moisture and conditioning agents to fill in and lubricate the hair shaft. Using a pH balanced cleansing product is also highly effective in preventing dryness and closing the hair's cuticle. Closing the cuticle helps to prevent breakage, since when the cuticle is open the hair tends to be rough and difficult to comb allowing it to break easily.

                            EXCESSIVE POROSITY:

Excessively porous hair will lead to, hair strands with severely open cuticles, holes in the hair shaft, leading to split ends and ultimately hair breakage, thining and hair with stagnated growth. Eliminating excessive direct heat such as blow drying, and flat ironing, damaging chemicals and highly alkaline products can cause excessive porosity. Opting for using pH balanced styling and finishing products, roller setting and indirect heat, moisturizing, conditioning and lubricating the hair regularly will help to balance hair's porosity. Maintaining medium porosity and balanced pH will keep hair healthy, supple and soft.

By Step-By-Step Natural Hairstyling, Natural Oasis Products

Should You Straighten Your Natural Hair?

Should you straighten your Natural Hair? The answer to this question depends on what your hair goals are. If you desire to maintain 100% of the integrity or your natural hair's curl pattern and the texture of your virgin natural hair then the answer is likely No. If you opt to cut your hair regularly and or keep it short you may be able to press or straighten your hair and keep it healthy looking by removing the damaged ends regularly. 

The minimal use of heat such as using hooded hair dryers where the hair is protected and wound on hair rollers preventing direct heat exposure to the hair ends and shaft will do little damage to the hair especially when conditioned properly. However, the use of direct heat implements such as flat irons and blow dryers where the heat is applied directly to the hair shaft and ends to make the hair "bone"  straight will certainly affect the integrity of the hair's natural curl pattern even after one staightening treatment. 

Why does the hair become damaged when using direct heat to straighten the hair? It is because in order to get the hair completely straight you must disrupt the protein bonds of the hair. The extreme heat needed to straighten the hair will cause these protein bonds to be slightly broken down each time the hair is heat treated. The more often the hair is straightened the more the bonds will be broken down, causing the hair to lose it's natural curl pattern more and more each time the hair is pressed. 

Depending on the hair's texture it may require more aggressive straightening to get the hair as straight and silky as one may desire. The straighter the hair texture is naturally the less heat will be required. This is why some can heat style their hair with minimal heat damage and others experience more damage. The type of process used to straighten the hair will also affect how damaging it will be to the hair. To minimize damage, especially if the hair texture is tighter, more corse and harder to straighten, opt for more indirect ways of straightening, stretching or loosening the hair, such as roller setting. Roller setting will allow you to set the hair in a way that it will straighten naturally as much as it can based on it's natural curl pattern without forcing it to straighten beyond it's natural ability and what is healthy for your particular curl patten and or texture. Heat damage occurs when the hair is forced to straighten far beyond it's natural curl patten using extreme heat and tension. 

Many who have been trying to grow their natural hair have found that the hair only grows to a certain point but never to their desired length. If you are pressing your hair or using heat implements on a regular basis this could be the problem. Also trimming the ends regularly, especially if you are heat treating your hair, is a must. This is because heat treating the hair will cause the ends to split. If these ends are not trimmed they will travel up the hair shaft and cause uneven hair breakage and thinning.

If you have made the decision to "grow" natural, learn to accept your hair's natural texture without comparing it to that of others. Learn the options you have for changing and increasing your style options without damaging it with the excessive use of heat and tension.

This website has many style options and videos that will show Step-By-Step how to stretch the hair without damaging it and causing irreparable damage to your precious natural hair texture.

If you have any additional questions or concerns about your natural or transitioning hair issues please feel free to leave us your comment or question below. We will respond as soon a possible.

NATURAL HAIR STYLES-How to Create Super Defined Curls for All Natural Hair Types

Creating Super Defined, Long-Lasting Curls for Natural Hair of all types is possible. But for many, learning how to achieve this has caused a never ending search for the perfect technique. There are some naturals for whom creating defined curls is simply a matter of finding a great moisturizing product, applying it and then just wash-n-go.  For others however, simply doing a wash-n-go does not provide those voluminous, long-lasting defined curls we desire from time to time. While it is important to embrace whatever curl pattern you have been blessed with, for certain special occasions we may want to create a more defined, polished look. 

Theses videos will show you Step-By-Step how to create polished and well-defined curls for special or any occasion.   

Step 1: Cleanse & Clarify

Step 2: Moisturize, Soften & Detangle. 

Step 3: Control Breakage, Strengthen & Provide Curl memory. 

Step 4: Coil

Step 5: Roll

Step 6: Define, Add Superior Shine & Seal in Curls. 

Tools Needed: 

1) Large Tooth Comb & Rat-Tail Comb

2) Perms Rods, Various Sizes, about 20-30

3) Protective Band or Scrunchy for creating Up-Do (optional)

Krafty Knits Hats by KraftyKnits.com

Hat by KraftyKnits.com , Earrings by Toni Daley, Bone Bracelet by www.LPieces.com

Krafty Knits

Wanting different and knowing an alternative is within reach is perhaps one plight of our existence, manifesting itself in our apparel choices, career paths and havens we decorate and call home. From this energy, creators awaken giving birth to new and refreshing.

What separates this lady is the uniqueness of her creations and how she presents them.

Featured in this month’s "Natural Oasis Customer Appreciation Giveaway" are two Krafty Knits originals: His and Hers beanies (Hers shown in this post). To enter log on to our contact page and submit your request. Be sure to include your mailing address with your request. Giveaway winners will be notified by April 12, 2015.

Michelle Richardson (MR): What is the meaning behind the name and how was your company founded?

Paula (Krafty Knits): I was trying to come up with a name that would incorporate my love of crafts with my love of loom knitting and came up with Krafty Knits, making it a little playful by using a ‘K' for Crafty instead of the ‘C'.  The company was founded out of my own desire to give my natural hair a break from the heat, but knowing that I would still need to find a hat to protect my head from the cold and my hair from the drying effects of knitted hats.

When did you realize you developed a love for crochet and knitting?

I have been playing with yarn since I was a teenager. My mother crocheted and knitted and we [eldest of six siblings] all took some form of interest in the craft. You never saw her sitting down without some project in her hand and we  took turns helping her unravel yarn and marvel at the items she created, making up her own stitches in the process.

I used to make latch hook rugs and have them framed or make area rugs. I graduated to hats and scarfs, then much later finished a few projects my mother had started before she passed and gave them to my children.

I can remember starting a few latch hook rugs, but never finished. How were you introduced to loom knitting?

By accident. Picked up a kit when I was in a store buying supplies for a school project for one of my children and decided to play around with it and see what I could do.  I liked the results, bought another kit and have been playing ever since.

Do you consider this your passion, a expressive form of your creative energy?

A combination of both.  It's very relaxing and I enjoy doing it. I like taking a pattern and putting my own spin on it which is where the creative energy comes into play.

I look forward to creating new styles and working with different types of yarn in the same piece to create a whole new look. One day I will actually learn how to knit with needles then I will be dangerous.

Many could argue the market is saturated with hats in various styles readily available at all price points in brick and mortar retail stores or those online. What are the distinctive differences? 

Those items are mass produced in factories that are sent all over the world. You can be in a grocery store and see 10 people with the same or similar type hat. Mine are hand crafted and only a limited number of items will be created.  Might only be four hats in the same color, but varying styles and lengths so that no two hats are ever the same.

You mentioned protecting your hair from the drying elements in the fabrics used as another reason. So are your hats marketed more towards naturals?

My hats can be worn by all, but since I will be offering a satin lining those particular hats will be marketed to naturals.

Will you offer satin lining in all of our hats?

No, the satin lining will be optional for the wool and wool blend hats only.

Clearly you wear your own creations. Any favorites?

I have been having fun creating and wearing the hats. My favorite is the figure 8, I’ve made several versions using different weight yarns and  sized looms and even though it's the same stitch the overall look is different.

Have people approached you, stopped you on the street to inquire or admire your hats?

Yes, I have gotten many compliments on my hats either by wearing them or showing pictures of finished pieces. There is a sense of pride knowing that other people like them as much as you do.

If someone sees a style they like, can they request you make it for them? 

This is currently a one woman show so other than the optional lining, no other customizations will be offered at this time. The plan is to be able to offer customizations in the future.

What specific pieces will Krafty Knits offer?

A unisex basic knit skully, a female skully and a few other slouchy and non-slouchy styles. Might offer a limited number of headband and infinity scarf sets, and hats and scarfs sets during the holidays.

Will the styles vary?

I will be offering two collections, a Fall/Winter and Spring/Summer. While there may be some overlapping of styles just in different types of yarn, I will always offer some new creations also to keep ‘krafty knits' fresh.

Please visit www.kraftyknits.com 

With a growing collection of Krafty Knits originals, I am an admirer. 

Much love,

Michelle Richardson
author | lover of life

Sometimes life is simply a journey of rediscovery.
 

How To Stretch 4B/C Hair Without Using Heat...

BY JAMIA

There are times when those of us with naturally tightly coiled or textured hair may want to stretch, elongate and define it. There are many ways to achieve this. Braiding is a tried and generally healthy way to elongate the hair while still maintaining texture. There are new devices being created that also help with stretching or elongating naturally textured hair, but may not curl the hair at the same time.

When we opt for a curly style we most often want to maintain as much noticeable length as possible. The video below will show how to define and elongate the hair while also creating amazing texture, curls and waves all without applying extreme tension, heat or manipulation to achieve the look. 

What you will need to achieve this look:

1) PRODUCTS: Cleanser, Moisturizer/Leave-in Conditioner, Setting Lotion and Sealer/Curl Definer.

2) TOOLS: Large tooth comb, Rat-Tail Comb, Magnetic Rollers with Clamps, Large Perm Rods.

Special Occasion Natural Hair Curly High-Puff Bun

Jewelry by www.LPieces.com

Posted By Jamia

With Spring in the H-AIR, there will be many Special Occasions happening to show off your beautiful natural tresses. Hopefully most have worn protective natural styles throughout the winter and are now ready to release locs of healthy hair, transforming them into creative, eye catching Coifs In this video you will learn how to create two versatile Curly Up-dos that can go from wedding to a weekend out on the town or for a romantic or girls getaway without a lot of up-keep or maintenance. See how to create a stylish yet easy to maintain look. This style can take you from special occasion to any occasion with minimal effort on your part. (These looks can be created on all hair types and textures using the same techniques shown in video).

Products used to create this look:

Step 1: Cleanse hair with Fruit, Herb & Flower Appel Cider Vinegar. After diluting, cleanse hair by spraying scalp down to ends with ACV. Then gently massage thoroughly into scalp down to ends. Use a rat-tail comb to lift any dandruff from scalp. Rinse thoroughly and proceed to detangling.

Step 2:  After applying "Honey Creme Liquid Balm" (Moisturizer) to entire head of damp or wet hair, detangle hair using a large tooth comb. To minimize hair breakage while detangling spray on a generous amount of "Fruit, Herb & Flower Oil-Free Setting Balm" (Tea Bags) .   

Step 3: Once hair is detangled, begin setting hair using Flexi or Perm Rods. Using about 20-30 flexi rods, roll hair starting from ends working up rod. Twist hair around rod as you roll to create a "Corkscrew" appearance. (See video) After all rods are installed, allow hair to dry under a hooded dryer for 1-2 hours or allow to air dry 1-3 hours or overnight.

Step 4: After hair has dried, gently remove rods and apply "Honey Gloss & Shine Liquid Balm" , Natural Oasis Herbal Hair & Scalp Conditioner or Styling Oil to each curl while a raveling and separating. 

Step 5: After curls have been separated, pull all hair up and toward the very top of the head and apply a protective hair band around all hair. This curly puff should have a tosseled, slightly messy look. To maintain sheen daily, add a small amount of Natural Oasis Herbal Finisheen to hands and smooth into outer edge or hair and scrunch into bun/puff.

Step 4: After hair has dried, gently remove rods and apply "Honey Gloss & Shine Liquid Balm" , Natural Oasis Herbal Hair & Scalp Conditioner or Styling Oil to each curl while a raveling and separating. 

Step 5: After curls have been separated, pull all hair up and toward the very top of the head and apply a protective hair band around all hair. This curly puff should have a tosseled, slightly messy look. To maintain sheen daily, add a small amount of Natural Oasis Herbal Finisheen to hands and smooth into outer edge or hair and scrunch into bun/puff.

Step 6: (Optional) To create a bit more dimension to your style, add flat twists to the top, back or sides before or after setting the hair. (See video). 

How does YOUR Man Feel About Your Natural Hair?...

What are you doing with this?

By Michelle Richardson

There are times, infrequent perhaps, distanced by years, when we feel the lack of support so acutely we wince as the chill of loneness snatches us from the fulcrum of oneness. In a well-worn posture of me against the world, fists tightened in anticipation, lifted and readied to defend against perceived threats we stand. Perhaps a figurative stance for some, but for others literal. Words, powerful and mighty enough to incite wars also yield laceration of souls. 

“What are you doing with this?” rattled the warrior within and it was through those eyes I saw. Those words were spoken by husband when he happened upon me seated at the dining room table years ago with my newly chopped mini afro. The ‘this’ to which hubby was referring, my hair. Relaxer gone, taking shoulder length hang time with it. In its place, a short cotton puff. The very puff I stood in the mirror, hours prior, admiring. Twisting and tipping my head in all directions to get a glimpse from a different angle, loving what I saw and exhaling at the freedom I felt. I did not consult with husband, running the idea by him before I took scissors to my hair. The decision, mine. A choice I, alone, had to make. One for me, not him nor anyone else. Granted hubby had to live with the result of my choice, but it’s just hair, right? (That question alone sparks thoughts for another post.) 

My husband is not the most expressive of men, but when some thing or some one displeases him it is quite evident. Eyes widen, eyebrows lift, mouth sets into a firm, tight lipped line and grunts of the “mhmm” variety can be heard mingled with slight yet discernible nods as if he’s pondering life. If the displeasure is great, the bottom lip pokes out joining the cacophony of grunts and mhmms. This sounds comical now, but it was painful then. Through the eyes of my warrior self, I analyzed his every reaction and concluded husband was displeased with my choice to not only cut my hair, but to wear it in its natural state. But was my reasoning valid?

When I spoke of programming in a previous post, I nor my family were excluded from the masses. We were as much a part of the brainwashing until we weren’t. For the better part of 20+ years my soul screamed to express itself fully in this area of resistance, but listen I did not. Even with the birth of our daughter, I resisted the tug, the urge to cut it off until thoroughly fed-up, tired to the bone with the cyclical process of trying to change this one thing about me with a touch-up every eight weeks, the day arrived. 

Internally poised in my defensive stance, I failed to realize that husband, too, was dealing with experiencing different, new, rarely seen on women of color, at that time, and not fully accepted or globally understood—a woman wearing her hair naturally. Wait…pause for clarification. For other ethnicities natural is normal, but add the descriptor of African descent, unusual, surprising, unexpected are the words that come to mind. No other race is expected to elucidate the hows and whys of choosing to wear their hair in its natural state. A basic right afforded others has not been normal for us, women of color, to wear our hair as it sprouts from roots with markers that determine texture. 

Yet here’s the beautiful, unfettered truth: the versatility and styling options of my mane—our hair—are endless. No longer do I fear the elements, I embrace them. Sometimes arms flung wide allowing wind, rain, sun and snow to water and nourish me. The feeling powerful. No longer driven to run, hide or protest the elements with fist and a scowl. I stand, realizing I am as much a part of them as they are me. After years of misinformation and miseducation, we have to strip bare, get to the core of who we are, and remember a forgotten truth that exists at our center: we are born perfect.

Hubby wasn’t being unsupportive. My hair looked different and he commented. Were his choice of words offensive? Initially, yes and they stung like hell. Did it take time for him to adjust? Yes, but husband has always stood in support of me, with me, beside me as I do him and together we embrace all that makes us different, yet very much the same. 

I am unique. I am a trendsetter. I am different. The power is I know I am. I celebrate those differences, embrace and love the hell out of them. Applaud them every day. I am unapologetically me. Know that within ‘I am' you are included…always.

Regards,

Michelle Richardson
author | lover of life

Isn't it time we equate positive with what's real?

Comb/Finger Coils Tutorial

Natural Hair Finger/Comb Coils: This is a great style for newly naturals and those who don't have access to rollers or rods. By simply twirling your own wet hair around your fingers or a comb, you can create long lasting curls, elongation and definition. 

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What you will need: 

1) Clean wet natural hair

2) Moisturizer

3) Large tooth comb

4) Medium-small tooth comb

5) Setting lotion and/or gel

6) Hair dryer (optional) 

7) Hair oil, glosser or sealer

Natural Hair No-Heat Curls & Waves Flexi Rod Twist Set Tutorial

Create Beautiful, Defined Curls & Waves: This style technique is ideal for naturals with medium to long natural hair or hair extensions. 

What you will need:

1) 20-40 Flexi-Perm Rods

2) Moisturizer

3) Large tooth comb

4) Setting lotion

5) Large tooth rat-tail comb

6) Small-Medium rat-tail comb

7) Hair Oil, Gloss or Sealing Balm

Voluminous No-Heat Wand-Like Curls Tutorial

Create Beautiful, Healthy No-Heat "Wand-like Curls". This tutorial will show step-by-step how to stretch and curl natural hair at the same time, while creating defined, long-lasting, voluminous "Wand-like" curls. These curls will generally last for up to two weeks without re-setting. To maintain a more defined look, simply remove rods and apply oil to each curl. To create a more "Voluminous" look, using a large tooth comb or pic, comb through and thoroughly separate to give the hair a thicker fuller look. Not to worry though, if your curls were properly set they will redefine while still maintaining a voluminous look. 

To maintain this look, pull the hair up into a "pineapple or high-bun", sleep in a satin bonnet or or use a satin pillow case. To maintain your defined look apply an extra-light styling oil daily. To maintain even more definition, twirl random curls around the finger tips throughout. To increase the length of your style and redefine the curls, re-roll the hair or 3-strand twist the hair in large chunks.

When setting the hair, the smaller the sections the less time it will take to dry the hair and the more defined and long-lasting your curls will be. (Taking short cuts to create this style will yield a set that will last only a few days, but will not maintain as define a look as taking your time and setting the hair wet or damp and in smaller sections). If you have fewer rods be sure to stretch and not over saturate the hair with too much product as this will greatly increase your drying time.

What you will need:

1) About 20-40 Perm or Flexi Rods.

2) Moisturizer

3) Setting Lotion or Gel.

4) Large tooth Comb

5) Large tooth Rat-Tail Comb

6) Medium to small rat-tail comb.

7) Hair oil or balm for curl defining & sealing

4C Natural Hair Corkscrew Curly Fro Perm Rod Set Tutorial

4C Defined Corkscrew Curly Coily Fro: Great way to define, stretch and curl short 4B/C natural hair.  For transitioning hair to help blend natural and relaxed hair together to create a uniform look. For best results stretch and roll hair at the same time up rod. 

What you will need to achieve this style: 

1) About 30 perm rods.

2) Large tooth comb & leave-in moisturizer & detangler.

3) Large tooth rat-tail comb.

4) Small tooth rat-tail comb for smoothing & setting hair.

5) Setting lotion.

6) Hair oil for shine and sealing.

7) Maintain using a satin bonnet or sleeping on a satin pillow case.

Journey To Natural Hair

A Natural Hair Journey & Transition Story

Last spring I began helping an amazing young lady transition to her natural hair texture.

Having always had a healthy head of hair, though relaxed, she-and I, were a bit apprehensive about cutting all of her relaxed hair at once. 

Since her hair had become severely damaged after enrolling in a major University and enduring all the stress that comes along with it, her hair began to suffer. Giving it a great deal of thought she decided to make the transition. 

This video will showcase her transition and the final look we chose to help protect her beautiful new natural tresses.

It is highly recommended that you test your hair before attempting this style to be sure it is compatible with your hair type, texture and condition.

VIDEO PHASE 1: THE PARTIAL BIG CHOP The video below shows how her hair was cut in a partial big chop. Then coiled & perm rod set. This allowed her time to become accustomed to working with her natural hair.

VIDEO PHASE 2: This video will show a few weeks later when her hair was a tad bit longer and able to be perm rod set all over. This "Cute Curly Fro" is ideal for those who are newly natural.  

VIDEO PHASE 3: After the final cut to remove the remainder of her relaxed ends. The video below chronicles her 1 year complete transition into her natural and professional journey. After achieving a significant amount of growth, we opted for a style that would allow her to protect her ever growing natural hair and provide her with a low maintenance style. The thumb nail photo is here before pic when her hair was healthy yet relaxed. After the stresses of college and life her healthy hair began to suffer. The video will pick up her journey to natural hair from that point. Enjoy her touching journey!

Perm Rod Setting 4C Natural Hair

See video below to learn how to create a defined 4C perm rod set. This method allows you to both stretch and curl define the hair at the same time without pre-stretching or applying heat.  When set properly, this style can last up to two weeks by morphing from a super defined "faux" tapered perm rod set to a full, natural looking curly fro. 

4A/B/C Natural Hair Defined | 3 Strand Twists | Easy Technique

For some, your natural hair texture can be difficult to define. All hair textures can be styled in a way that is beautiful, polished and stunning.

However, knowing how to achieve the look for your hair type is key. The popularity of 3 Strand Twists is ever growing as are the many ways of creating them. This video will show you step-by-step how to create a "Faux" Wash-N-Go look from an easy to create 3 strand twist out. These can be created on old stretched hair or on freshly cleansed tresses. For maximum definition, its best to apply additional moisturizer and or setting lotion so that you will maintain your definition for days to come. Products used: Natural Oasis Products.

See how to create this look by viewing the video below.

Natural Hair Super Curly Fro Flexi Rod Set

Super Curly Fro Flexi-Rod Set 

Super Curly Fro Flexi Rod Set: Create this "No-Heat, Stretched Super Curly" style using orange and blue flexi rods or about 1" & 3/4" size flexi rods.

For this thickness and length you will need about 20-30 rods, half & half. Larger size rods should be used on top and smaller size rods on the sides and back. To create soft but lasting curls, use a creme based moisturizer and an alcohol free setting lotion for hold and curl memory. This style can also be created on dry stretched hair by lightly spraying hair with setting lotion and or moisturizer, but only a little so as not to over wet or saturate the hair. Finish the style with a light oil or balm to add shine and gloss and to help maintain curl definition. Perm rods can be substituted for shorter hair. See Step-By-Step Tutorial Below.

Daddys Doing Natural Hair - Easy, Long-Lasting Styles for Kids

Photo Credit: Daddy Doin Work https://www.facebook.com/daddydoinwork?fref=ts

With the popularity and assistance of YouTube videos and many natural hair blogs, it's become easier than ever to learn how to care for your little ones natural hair. Even Dad's are motivated and more confident when it comes to styling natural hair. Fewer things are more attractive than a man who takes the time and exercises the patience necessary to style and care for his little ones hair. And no doubt mothers appreciate assistance in this area. Fathers who take the time to care for their little ones hair not only offer much needed assistance but it's a great way to draw closer, bond and spend quality time with your precious little one. You may never be able to create all the latest intricate natural hair styles but learning how to do the basics is easier than ever with a little visual assistance, and Step-by-Step instructions. Here are a few simple steps to help you create styles that are easy and long lasting.

Natural Hair Care Individual Braids with Triangular Parts 

In addition to learning how to create a few simple styles, doing them in a way that won't cause unecessary tears or hair breakage is also a technique you will need to master to get through those tiny styling sessions successfully. 

Step 1:  Apply a moisturizing product and or detangling spray before attempting to comb through the delicate tendrils of tender headed tykes. First apply a small amount of moisturizer, then spray on detangler. After which, hand separate a small section and hold the hair gently but firmly at the base of the head. Using a large tooth comb begin combing the hair starting from the ends gently and slowly combing closer to the root or base of the head, all the while holding hair in the hands tightly enough so your little one can not feel the tug of the comb. Once the majority of the hair has been detangled, gradually release the hair and comb slowly from the base out to the ends. Having some type of distraction such as their favorite TV program or video or game device will help keep them from getting restless or noticing those few tugs that may occur during the detangling process. As each portion of hair is detangled, if you know how to braid or twist, put the hair in a large twist or braid until all hair at each section has been detangled.

Natural Hair Two-Strand Flat Twists

Step 2: After all the hair has been thoroughly detangled, decide which style is easiest to create. If you have learned how to create your little ones favorite style that may be the best option. If not, the easiest style may be a simple pony tail or two. Be sure to use a fabric covered band or "scrunchie" so as not to pull, break or tangle the hair. Gently come or brush all hair up and softly apply pony tail band around the hair. If the hair follicle can be seen pulling from at the scalp, it is too tight. Loosen the band so as not to cause your little one pain or permanent hair loss. If you or your little one would prefer to have a slightly more intricate style, check out a few tutorials that will help you create basic plaits or twists that may last longer and be more preferable to your tiny client.

Natural Hair Care Two-Strand Sister Twists | Twist Out

Step 3: Finally, apply a finishing oil to the hair to minimize frizzy edges and give the hair a lasting sheen. At night, using a cute satin bonnet or scarf will help to prevent the absorption of oils into the pillow case and keep edges and style looking fresh and neat for the next day.

Dads your efforts are greatly appreciated, not only by Mom but by your precious little one who will forever cherish the effort you put forth to spend quality time with then and to care for the beautiful natural hair. 

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